froelich:

how about instead of pretending that lesbians never fall in love with straight women, we understand that a lesbian falling in love with a straight woman is not predatory?

lesbians are allowed to have unrequited crushes for fuck’s sake, there is nothing inherently bad or predatory about a lesbian falling in love with someone who can never return the feeling. it fucking happens to everyone, yes, lesbians included.

a lesbian being attracted to a straight woman doesn’t make that straight woman a victim. straight women’s collective terror and loathing of lesbians makes them homophobes, not victims.

now, if a lesbian stalks her unrequited crush? if she harasses her unrequited crush? if she does legitimately bad things in the name of her unrequited crush? yes, then she’s being predatory, just like anyone else who does these things, and regardless of whether her crush was straight or gay.

but simply having a crush on a straight woman? are you fucking kidding me?

come the fuck on. stop agreeing with straight women who think lesbian attraction is inherently malicious.